December 25, 2011
(This is our 24th Christmas Together!)
t. –
Merry Christmas my love. I can’t believe that this year went by so quickly. It seems like only yesterday we were preparing for Meg’s graduation. I can’t imagine a year in our near quarter of a century together where so much has changed. We became empty nester’s, we moved to a whole new city and we did all we could to manage the overwhelming amount of disruption to our lives. Most important, like always we did it all together. No matter how stressful things got, no matter how sad we were at times, no matter how excited we got over this or that – we did it together.
This holiday season has just seemed out of sorts the entire time. No chatty girls around all the time, no house to decorate, limited space, limited resources, etc. Yet somehow I know that when we wake up on December 26th, it will be a memorable and fantastic Christmas that we will remember as fondly as we have the past 23 Christmases. It will be a Christmas of transition to a new way of managing our family. One we didn’t quite prepare for the right way, but in the end you will have made it amazing.
So with that in mind, I figured I would tell you what Christmas will be like for the next near quarter of a century. I did Christmas past, present and future a few years ago in this letter, but this year I am going to give you a “glimpse” of what Grandma Tracy Christmases will be like for years to come.
First of all, I will get you that “stop the car Uncle Frank” house just as soon as I possibly can. It is where you were born to be during this holiday season. How could I have missed that all these years? I mean I married a girl who did basement Christmas concerts in JULY when she was kid. Who better to have a house literally designed to be decorated for the holidays. So read the rest of this letter with that picture in your mind. A house with ceilings tall enough to put up 12 foot trees. Mantles galore adorned with stockings for our girls, their spouses and all of the grandkids. A staircase lined with whatever seasonal decoration meets your fancy that year. Fireplaces in every room imaginable each with crackling logs for warmth and that seasonal smell. I promise you it will be yours.
The Christmas holiday will need more than one day for certain. A single day won’t do for all of the traditions we will need to honor. The girls and their families (ok I cried at just typing that) will arrive a few days early. The first day you will leave me at home with husbands and grandkids while you and the girls go have lunch together. You will spend hours catching up (you know on all the stuff that happened on their flight/drive in – since you talked to them at length the day before anyway) while you are reminded how proud you are of them. How happy their lives turned out as perfectly as you had hoped. How happy they are and how loved and respected they are by their husbands and kids. Meanwhile, I will be pulling out the hundreds of toys you have picked up over the years to entertain the grandkids on visits and playing on the floor in a room somewhere. The girls husbands will be watching TV and catching up on their latest business endeavors and sports. It won’t be much catching up though, because the girls are still so close that their husbands are likely good friends anyway. But they get a chance to relax and I get to PLAY!
We will all go out for dinner somewhere nice. Then come home and it is your turn to revel in your grandkids. They can’t get enough of being with you. They want to tell you everything. Who their friends are, what they do at school, what their favorite color is, what their dog (well Sadie anyway) did that was funny, how soccer is going, how ballet was – you name it. Most of it isn’t that big of news to you, since you likely were at most of those events anyway. But hearing their excitement is the only gift you need. You put them all to bed very late, because they simply had so much to tell you – and you simply had to hear it all.
The next morning everyone goes last minute shopping. You help the grandkids buy “mommy and daddy” gifts, you help them wrap them, and get the under one of the many trees. Then you all start baking some cookies. Likely the candy canes that Megan loves so much or some new recipe our now very experienced baker Meg has concocted. You know the one her and her kids saved “just for grandma”. Kendall, meanwhile, helps with dinner. She brings a new specialty to you as well. One her and her kids make all the time that they are dying to share with grandma as well. We finish the night with a cinema-fest of your favorite Christmas movies. All of us crammed on to the couches, floors and chairs as a huge family. Watching into the night. Again you put everyone to bed, smile and hold my hand as we head off to our own bed.
On Christmas Eve day, we make sure we hit a show or the Nutcracker. Just like we have done for years. To get there of course you have to spend tons of time dressing the grandkids in the new outfits you got them just for the shows. You fix hair, out on dresses, sweaters, etc. They look perfect. The grandkids argue about who gets to sit next to you at the show. So at intermission the whole row is re-arranged to avoid conflict and to be fair. I of course, wish I could sit next you, but I take the seat just between my girls. After the show we all hit Starbucks for some hot chocolate. Then we head back home for a fine Italian meal – likely your famous lasagna or farfalle. It turns out that the girls husbands are secretly requesting that you make both every year and every year you make both.
That night you get to watch more Christmas movies and read “Twas the Night Before Christmas” to everyone. More fireplace action, more crowding onto couches, chairs and floors and more time with grandma. Finally, you and the girls take all of the kids outside to feed reindeer and see if they can see Santa or Rudolph. Local airplanes provide some magic for you and then you rush them off to bed. Everyone is giddy with excitement for the next morning. All of us parents spend time getting the gifts perfectly placed (and perfectly balanced by count) under the tree. Santa is – as always – really good to everyone. We all know who Santa is by now.
Christmas morning we are awakened by grandkids at like 5AM. They get their parents first, but then rush to our room and grab you. The literally drag you downstairs in excitement. I make some coffee, they rip into presents, one after the other with growing excitement. I get as many pictures as I can for the “Christmas book” (this will make more sense later). The play with toys, do fashion shows, call their friends and tell them what they got, etc. We all sit back and in wonderment.
Then the cooking begins. I suspect our turkey will be about 25 lbs and by then we may be sporting 2 of them. Megan starts asking about mashed potatoes and Kendall makes sure the “inside stuffing” has been appropriately apportioned. By luck, both husbands are huge brussel sprout fans. We bust through a few cheese balls and finally hit the table for a perfect meal. Of course, by now we have a real kids table to deal with. So you and I spend ample time jumping up and down to make sure they have everything they need.
The girls and their husbands manage to get the dishes done (it takes 3 hours because Megan and Kendall fight over when to start). Then we break out the cookies. We all cram back onto those couches, chairs and the floor and watch “It’s a Wonderful Life” – because it truly is one.
They all stay for a few days more then head home. We both cry because we want nothing more than for them to be there every day – like it was when they were younger. The grandkids cry because they’d much rather stay with you a while longer. The girls cry because they are reminded just how amazing you made their lives. It is the perfect ending to a perfect holiday.
A few days later we all board a plane on our way to Los Angeles to watch the Badgers win the Rose Bowl. Sorry I couldn’t resist.
I hope this is how every holiday goes for you baby. You have spent your whole life preparing for it to happen. It gets closer every day.
You’re the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
Merry Christmas!
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