My god you are beautiful.
I cannot tell you even in written words just how true that is my
love. For more than 35 years my eyes
have been blessed with being able to look in any direction and see perfection.
Seems today is a pretty special day. I did some research. By year 35, 67% of all marriages have
terminated. We must be magicians. We are still going strong after 35 years.
Why? Why do we not
only outlast other marriages but continue to thrive as a couple.
Why do other couples lose interest in each other while we
grow more attached and intrigued by each other?
Why do some couples lose their spark while we still can’t
keep our hands off each other?
It seems to me that we make it easy. It isn’t just that we love one another. It is that we are in love with each
other. It is a distinction we uncovered
so many years ago. Love? It is easy.
“Being in love” now that is something special.
What does “being in love” mean?
It means that every morning when I get out of bed, turning
back and kissing you on the shoulder or the cheek is important. It is like saying, I do not want to get out
of bed and when my feet hit the floor, I will immediately wish I was back in bed
with you.
It is why a simple thing like stopping at the door and
yelling “I love you sweetie, goodbye” is so important. I always want the last thing you hear from me
to be I love you.
It means that getting a diet coke (and opening it) is more
than just a nice thing to do, it is a reminder that doing nice things is important.
It is reaching over on a car ride and kissing your hand is
necessary. A reminder that while sitting
in traffic sucks, sitting in traffic with you isn’t so bad.
It is always noticing how awesome your butt looks in
whatever jeans you are wearing.
It is coming home from work and hearing that you are
upstairs getting dressed and hoping that I caught you in your white robe, even
if just for a second.
It is fighting an ice maker - that clearly tells us from
time to time that it needs breaks – and laughing about it.
It is listening to a song during the day and losing focus
for a while as I wish I was with you and we were hearing the song together.
It is buying silly instruments on Amazon and KNOWING that we
are talented playing them together.
After 35 years, you would think that we know everything
about one another. But we do not. We continuously learn things about each
other. We are still amazed with each
other. We are still fun together. We are still passionate about each other.
Our children will both be married in a few days. It pleases me that we have provided them with
such a terrific plan for a successful marriage.
I hope they understand how simple it can be. I am both happy and a bit sad for them
both. Happy that they found
someone. Sad that they may be extremely
happy in their marriages and still never experience what we have
experienced. I am not sure anyone else ever
will. That is probably god’s reward for
us. A marriage that mirrors perfection.
Finally, I felt it was a good time to tell you what I have
learned in 35 years with you. Some are
funny, but some are such a huge part of “me” that I know I cannot separate
myself from “us” anymore.
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I have learned some manners.
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I have learned what it means to completely trust
someone and give myself to them without reservation.
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I have learned that the comfort of having
someone who puts you first can make any bad day only temporary.
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I have learned that sexy has no bounds and that
it is possible for someone to get sexier EVERY day.
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I have learned to close doors, cabinets, and
drawers (most of the time).
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I have learned that someone loving me doesn’t
mean they just want something from me, but that they truly love me.
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I have learned that family is important and that
families are always the support you need.
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I have learned that proper grammar is important.
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I have learned that the right clothes are also
important.
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I have learned that shoes with red soles are not
only fashionable, they make the person wearing them feel sexier.
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I have learned that when I need someone to help
ease my stress or angst that she is always on the other end my next hug.
I
could go on and on, but you get the point.
My love, on this our 35th anniversary, I tried
hard to find words that truly express how I feel about you. I tried hard to find a phrase that describes
us perfectly. No matter how I try, it always
comes back to this:
You’re
the world to me. I love you more than
anything in the world.
Happy Anniversary my love.
35 years ago, my life became a fairy tale.
