Happy 35th Anniversary

 

My god you are beautiful.  I cannot tell you even in written words just how true that is my love.  For more than 35 years my eyes have been blessed with being able to look in any direction and see perfection.

Seems today is a pretty special day.  I did some research.  By year 35, 67% of all marriages have terminated.  We must be magicians.  We are still going strong after 35 years.

Why?  Why do we not only outlast other marriages but continue to thrive as a couple.

Why do other couples lose interest in each other while we grow more attached and intrigued by each other?

Why do some couples lose their spark while we still can’t keep our hands off each other?

It seems to me that we make it easy.  It isn’t just that we love one another.  It is that we are in love with each other.  It is a distinction we uncovered so many years ago.  Love?  It is easy.  “Being in love” now that is something special.

What does “being in love” mean?

It means that every morning when I get out of bed, turning back and kissing you on the shoulder or the cheek is important.  It is like saying, I do not want to get out of bed and when my feet hit the floor, I will immediately wish I was back in bed with you.

It is why a simple thing like stopping at the door and yelling “I love you sweetie, goodbye” is so important.  I always want the last thing you hear from me to be I love you.

It means that getting a diet coke (and opening it) is more than just a nice thing to do, it is a reminder that doing nice things is important.

It is reaching over on a car ride and kissing your hand is necessary.  A reminder that while sitting in traffic sucks, sitting in traffic with you isn’t so bad.

It is always noticing how awesome your butt looks in whatever jeans you are wearing.

It is coming home from work and hearing that you are upstairs getting dressed and hoping that I caught you in your white robe, even if just for a second.

It is fighting an ice maker - that clearly tells us from time to time that it needs breaks – and laughing about it.

It is listening to a song during the day and losing focus for a while as I wish I was with you and we were hearing the song together.

It is buying silly instruments on Amazon and KNOWING that we are talented playing them together.

After 35 years, you would think that we know everything about one another.  But we do not.  We continuously learn things about each other.  We are still amazed with each other.  We are still fun together.  We are still passionate about each other.

Our children will both be married in a few days.  It pleases me that we have provided them with such a terrific plan for a successful marriage.  I hope they understand how simple it can be.  I am both happy and a bit sad for them both.  Happy that they found someone.  Sad that they may be extremely happy in their marriages and still never experience what we have experienced.  I am not sure anyone else ever will.  That is probably god’s reward for us.  A marriage that mirrors perfection.

Finally, I felt it was a good time to tell you what I have learned in 35 years with you.  Some are funny, but some are such a huge part of “me” that I know I cannot separate myself from “us” anymore.

·         I have learned some manners.

·         I have learned what it means to completely trust someone and give myself to them without reservation.

·         I have learned that the comfort of having someone who puts you first can make any bad day only temporary.

·         I have learned that sexy has no bounds and that it is possible for someone to get sexier EVERY day.

·         I have learned to close doors, cabinets, and drawers (most of the time).

·         I have learned that someone loving me doesn’t mean they just want something from me, but that they truly love me.

·         I have learned that family is important and that families are always the support you need.

·         I have learned that proper grammar is important.

·         I have learned that the right clothes are also important.

·         I have learned that shoes with red soles are not only fashionable, they make the person wearing them feel sexier.

·         I have learned that when I need someone to help ease my stress or angst that she is always on the other end my next hug.

 

I could go on and on, but you get the point.

My love, on this our 35^th anniversary, I tried hard to find words that truly express how I feel about you.  I tried hard to find a phrase that describes us perfectly.  No matter how I try, it always comes back to this:

                You’re the world to me.  I love you more than anything in the world.

Happy Anniversary my love.  35 years ago, my life became a fairy tale.