It has been sometime since we heard from Superman. He is still there. He still rules my thoughts. He still helps me decide. He still helps me act. He never goes away.
Superman got smarter over the past few months. He seems to have figured out a “secret formula” that makes him even stronger. He can manipulate time.
Honestly, Superman wants to master time travel, but apparently it isn't possible (although I saw some guy on TV this week who claims to seriously have mastered it). He would take you back in time and “fix” a few moments for you. He might make your marriage proposal just a bit more special. He might have removed the phrase “nothing in common” from the past 20 years. He may even have stopped someone from a miserable Badger game experience. He might help us render this “when our daughter should have started her schooling” dilemma. He might even have stopped us from making a few of our “lessor” financial decisions. However, he is finding that the need to travel back in time isn't so important. In fact now if he did he would simply travel back in time to enjoy some of the great moments of the past 21 years. What he focuses on now is manipulating time.
Superman often finds himself overwhelmed by a lack of time. Too much to do. Too much going on. Too many aspirations and not enough time to make them all happen. He deals with it everyday. Somehow he manages it. He gets what needs to get done completed and despite constant whining about his lack of time he gets things finished. Maybe that is why he is Superman after all.
However, he has found that there is certain kind of time he requires the most. Time with you. Time just spent “being with you”. It makes all other time manageable. With it he can manipulate the cost of time. He can manage the lack of time. It makes all other time seem reasonable.
So what does time with you mean? Is it hours a day? Is it minutes? Seconds? Nope. It is just time. Time spent holding hands. Time spent hugging. Time back to back at different computers doing different things. Time in the car. Time on the couch. Time just knowing you are there. There is no better time.
With that kind of “you” time all other time seems less important. Less stressful. Superman still has moments where his lack of time causes him to stare off into nowhere, but the suddenly the “you time” makes it all OK. All manageable. With you time Superman can manipulate his expectations and efforts on the “other time” so long as he knows there is plenty of “you time” coming soon.
So why is all of this important? Why should you care?
The primary reason is to remind you that I need my “you time”. That time with you is what makes me happy. It makes me strong. It makes me Superman. I can assure you that I value my time with you. Every second, no matter how small. That without it I wouldn't be who I am. I wouldn't be Superman. I'd be just some regular guy.
I figure at this point you probably need some examples. So this past weekend (which was WAY too short I might add) I took some notes. I had a big time constraint with our business and my new business on the horizon. It was causing me great stress. But with my new found power I used “you time” to make things all better.
What were the “you time” examples?
- 15 minutes playing Rock Band with you and the girls
- A prolonged discussion on the way to the dry cleaners about being a father
A trip to Best Buy
Watching Harper's Island together
Walking into Sendik's and discussing the potential movie quotes from “The Hangover”
A conversation about the “adulthood” of our oldest daughter and how hard it must be for her to grapple with becoming and adult (and how hard it is for us I might add)
Listening to you and the home re-modeler discuss the new rooms – you always sound so confident
Your smile when you walked in the house after exercising on Friday – I came down very stressed saw that smile and suddenly it went away
The moment you came back into the hair salon and resolved my angst over you being “missing”
Moving furniture around and watching your mind work on how you needed everything to be placed just perfectly
Watching how proud of yourself you were when we finished with the furniture
So there you have it. My “you time” is what gives brings Superman to life. Gives him powers to manage all the other time. I love time with you.
I hope this all made sense to you. I just re-read it and it seems somewhat confusing. But I promise you that the entire concept is very important to me. It is exactly why I look forward to the next 50 years with you. We will have lots of “time” together. Some “time” will make big memories and some “time” will just make small memories. But the “time” itself will bring us life.
It gets harder and harder to leave you when I have to go away.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
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