Resolution For a New Year

Well another year starts. By my count this is the 22 different "year" we have been together. Starting with dating in 1988 all the way through 2009. 22 different years. Wow. You have been my life for a long time. That isn't a typo, I meant you have BEEN MY LIFE (not in my life).

I usually don't have new years resolutions. I make some silly ones like losing weight, getting organized, etc. But I rarely follow through with them. Very few people ever do. So I guess I am not unique in that respect. This year I have a real resolution and an important one. So I must follow through on it. It involves you.


I think last year was a difficult one for our marriage. I am not sure why. We seemed to argue more than ever and we seemed to do it over very mundane things. The little arguments turned into bigger arguments. The bigger arguments turned into my pouting and feeling hurt. I think I spent more time feeling hurt by you in 2008 than in the previous 2 decades combined. It can't go on that way.

So what exactly is my resolution? Well it is simple. I want to make the most of every moment we spend together. I want to enjoy my time with you. I want to do things together and enjoy doing them. There you go. Resolution publicized.

So now we have to consider what we can do to help me achieve my new years goal.

A few of them are things we need to bring back from the past.

The first is coffee on Saturday mornings. We used to do this every week and for some reason stopped. I want to start that again. It was nice time we spent together. Even if it was just the drive to the Starbucks it was a planned time for just us. It is like 15 minutes a week that we can commit to us, I don't trying to squeeze 15 minutes in is all that difficult.

The second is lunch together on Friday. I have already blocked my entire year on Friday's at noon. I have made it clear to my new boss that I NEED to be home on Friday unless it is completely out of her control. I think this was also a nice thing we did together. It means both of us being ready to go at noon on Fridays. We had some nice talks at lunch. Ate some decent meals. It seemed to always give our weekend a "kick start". Hey maybe I will even let you treat me every once in a while.

Next we need to start "going out" more. I had such fun with you on Saturday night. We can go out with friends (we will need to get some more of those) or just go out alone. We can see a movie, go to a concert, see a play, take a drive, go shopping or whatever. It really doesn't matter we just need that time for just us - having fun. Making each other laugh is what we have always done best. We need to do more of it.

Finally, I need to start surprising you a bit more. Some flowers here, a card there or a note left in a conspicuous place. I think you deserve that. You deserve to be treated a bit more "special" than I did this past year.

So there you go. It is my plan for meeting my news years resolution. The best part is that I get to do it with you. Only you. That is really the time I enjoy most.

I love you more than anything in the world.

Happy New Year.