The Blog Has Eyes

So this past week I found out that you and I are not the only people who read this blog. While I was mildly surprised that a stranger was reading it, I was really surprised that our oldest daughter reads as well.

I wondered exactly what that means. Should we be worried that it is kind of invasive in a way? Is it a problem to think that what are often very private thoughts are viewed by others who don't know us that well? So I took some time to read through the past year of posts. What I found kind of surprised me (and I wrote them all).

First of all I have done a fine job of keeping the names of people out of the blog. If people who knew it was us read the posts they would have no problems deciphering who was who, but a stranger couldn't do figure it out. I really don't even refer to where we live or how we live to any large degree. So it remains anonymous as intended.

So what can someone learn from reading this? And should we be worried? I don't think so.

What you find is kind of a story of two people who love each other very much. Two people who share their lives unlike most other couples. It recants 20 years of a perfect relationship. Two people lucky enough to find the one other person who makes them happy. Two best friends. Two terrific parents. One very strong family. Why would we not want others to read that? Why would we not want to share that with others?

Maybe this blog can be a reminder to someone that true love does exist. That two people can have a relationship where being in love is often enough to get us through. It can serve as a message to our daughter (and maybe the other one will read it someday) that her expectations of a relationship should be very high. That for all the clothes, iPods, cars and toys she has been given in her life that maybe the biggest gift she has ever been given is parents who love each other like we do. A father who always puts his wife first and adores her above all else. When she picks a husband she will expect nothing less.

Anyone who reads this can also learn that even the best relationships have tough times. It is inevitable. However, for us our tough times are always resolved by how much we love each other. How important we are to each other and how we make each other a priority. It is really full of little lessons and messages about how much fun we have and how important simply spending time together can be for a relationship.

So I guess I am ok with others reading the blog. Maybe the biggest reason is how proud I am of us. The marriage we have and the love we share. Why wouldn't you want to share that with others?

I love you sweetie. I have no problems telling the world how much I love you. I have no problems telling the world how important you are to me. How important "we" are to each other.

Read on people. Maybe you will learn something.

I love you more than anything in the world.