"normal"

It has been an interesting few weeks. I am pretty certain we were not really prepared for the change the nephew would cause our family. It really does make everything different. Meals are different, quick decisions to run to the store are different, and even small ad-hoc conversatios are different. Ironically I don't think he sees just how important our marriage is in the whole equation.

How could he not? Doesn't he notice we still hold hands in the car? Doesn't he realize that we as a family make concessions for each other to make one another happy? Could his own representation of a marriage have really been that lame?

It is the "us" portion I don't think he truly grasps. The portion of the family that is centered around the fact that we recognize that "us" is as important as "we". I am shocked he has not picked up on that. So maybe we need to step it up a notch. Maybe we don't include him in a few thinsg and get back to "normal". But what is "normal"?

I think "normal" to us is different that it is to others. "Normal" to us includes our Saturday morning trips to get coffee. Do you remember how far we had to travel for it in Arlington? I looked forward to that trip. Now I love it when we go get coffee and we sit in the Starbucks for 30 minutes or so just talking. The best part is that you don't even like coffee and you go with me anyway.

"Normal" to us includes the family watching our shows together. It is during that couch time when we have our best conversatino, we do some feet rubbing and we are all really close. This weekend when I was sitting in the chair in that store saying "hey lets get this" I knew all along that it would pale in comparison to my spot on the end of the couch with you right next to me. That is exactly where I would prefer to be.

"Normal" to us is you and I sneaking off for a Fridya ro Saturday night dinner togther while we force the girls to find plns on their own. Then we can hold hands across the table and have that kind of converstaion private only to us. Think of how many times we have disucssed the past or the future while we had a nite to eat and held hands across the table.

So how do we get back to "normal"? Are we no "normal" any longer? I don't know what the answer is but the examples I gave above are what I love about our marriage and the things I look forward to doing with you. Doing them with the single most important person in my life. My wife.

Wanna do some "normal" stuff this weekend my love? If so consider it a date.

I love you so much.