What it Means to be a Super Man

I have to start out by telling you that I am a bit uncertain that this will translate from my head to this page. In my head it really sounded good. So here goes...

Having the nephew at our house has very often given me thought about this concept of what it takes to be a man. You know it is a recurring topic for me. What does being a man mean? How do we get to be men? I think I have the process figured out. I have you to thank for it.

As you are keenly aware, I am or at least consider myself to be a "super man". While it started as a joke for the girls, over time it has become some kind of symbolism for my life. I take great pride in how I behave, provide for my family and live my life as a man. Before you I didn't care about any of that. Now that I have you I am truly Superman. It just took time to hone my skills.

Being man requires a few super powers of sorts. Men need courage. Men need strength. Men need passion. Men to be providers. Men need to love someone on whom they can shower their super powers.

I think I am courageous. While I may not be adventurous, I have courage. There is nothing I would not do for you or the girls. There is nothing I would not make every attempt to accomplish for you. Be it an difficult phone call I need to make or addressing a matter that is uncomfortable - that is my role. That is my job as the man in our family. There is little room for cowardice. It just doesn't serve the ones I Love to be a coward.

Before you I was a coward. You gave me all the courage I possess.

I get stronger all the time. Not physical strength, more mental. It is every bit the man's role to bear the burdens that protect his family. To truly bear burden, one must have strength. While Superman can't really lift a burning building, he can make sure that those he protects are not harmed by the flames. If something is wrong the man must find and fix the problem. He uses his strength to protect the ones he loves. It is an essential element of being a "super man".

Without you in my life I was a weakling. You give me my strength.

I feel really strong about having passion. Passion give you the drive and desire to create better lives for those you love. There is nothing wrong with being passionate about the love you have for your wife and children. Nothing wrong with often feeling the overwhelming love and passion you have for them. Nothing wrong with a sudden moment when you see your wife and are amazed by her beauty. Or look at your daughters and feel compelled to hug them. Only a true man can have that kind of passion. Passion helps remove that self involvement so many so-called men find themselves caught p in all the time. Passion keeps drive in relationships. Men without passion are not men at all.

My passion for you grows every day. You made me realize what being truly passionate about something is all about.

Men should take care of people. It is our most basic instinct. Pure and simple men are providers. Not just in terms of belongings and stuff. More in terms of safety. Men MUST be the kind of people who ensure that most basic needs of the family are met. Men should be compelled to provide the kind of safety required for the ones they love.

Before you I couldn't even provide for myself. You made me understand my role in life.

Finally men need to love someone enough to use all these super powers on. None of these super powers can be possible without love. Some men never figure this out. Only something as powerful as love can make a a "super man". It is the single greatest thing in a real man's life. Some men can get that kind of power without a family. This "super man" found it in his wife and family.

I thought I knew love before you, but I didn't. Nothing is more dear to me than the love we share, You brought me love to fuel my super powers. You brought me the only real love I have ever known.

So there they are. The super powers needed to be a "super man". I am Superman. You made me that way. You are my courage, my strength, my passion, the one for whom I provide and most of all my true love.

I love you more than anything in the world.

I hope it sounded as cool on paper as it did in my tired head. Now if this snoring bozo next to me would close his death breath mouth I might be able to get some sleep.

I love you.