Staying Put

I hadn’t really thought about it until we discussed it this past weekend.  But you were right.  It has been a long time for us that we have had opposite “schedules”.  So much time apart for a couple who should spend so much time together.

I guess it started when we first got together.  We had your evening schedule, my day schedule and my working every Saturday (we needed the extra money).  Then we had a break while you watched the boys at our townhouse and I got to come home at 330 every day and help you.  I was still gone every Saturday though.  However, it goes into the “more normal” part of our lives.

We did pretty well there for a while.  Even though we had the brief time when I worked overnight and then tried to be “normal” during the daytime, we weren’t too off schedule.  It was however the first time we didn’t go to bed together every night.

Without giving you a history lesson neither of us want to re-hash we have spent a ton of time away from each other.  The past few years being the worst of the distance.  Now I get presented with an opportunity for yet another long distance opportunity.  and only during that discussion did it hit how “far apart” we have been “for so long”.

So I am putting an end to it now.  We can’t go on like this anymore.  Actually we could, we are that rare couple who can withstand anything.  That couple who no matter what gets thrown at us we fall back on each other and make our way through.  But why should WE have to endure anything like this anyway?

This is what I picture.  I get up at a normal time and get dressed.  I get into my car and drive to my office that is no more than 10-12 minutes away form our home.  At lunch you stop by the office.  You say hello to the people I work with because you know them well – because well you do come by the office often.  I drop what i am working on as i usually do and we take off for lunch.  on a nice day we picnic, on a cold day we certainly get hot chocolate (well I get coffee of some kind) and we are so well know as the “lunch couple” at every spot in town we never have to wait.  after lunch i kiss you goodbye and finish my work day.  I leave the office at a reasonable time and head home to eat dinner, run errands, watch our favorite shows and rub some feet.

Pretty much every day goes something like that.  Pretty much forever.

It is going to happen soon sweetie.  I promise.  Two people who love each other like we do should not be apart.  I am just thankful that our amazing girls have been there for both of us when the other wasn’t home for so long.  Since they are growing up i can’t leave you alone.  It won’t happen.

So start making those lunch plans.

You’re the world to me.  I love you more than anything in the world.