This blog post is a week late. I admit to not feeling well over the holiday week and apologize for the lapse. This is a post I really wanted to make last week.
I spent some time in New York with my nephew and his wife this past weekend. They are experiencing the most challenging part of their lives right now and it was nice to just hang out with them. It turns out I learned a lot of very good information about them. So this blog entry will couple a note about us in the same light as our young, recently married nephew and his wife.
I think few people really understand the true power of being in love with someone. So few people really get to experience what it really means. There are millions of people who date or even marry without really knowing what it means. Luckily, I now know a second couple who truly gets he true meaning and the real power of being in love.
True love is all about being there for each other no matter what the challenge. When life throws you one of it's many curves, having someone to manage through it with is important. Take this past summer for us, it was one of the most challenging times for our marriage. Only the fact that we truly love each other and have that knowing that we will always be there for each other made our challenge bearable. It was one of those times that we tapped into the power of our love to carry us through. Our nephew and his wife find themselves in a similar situation.
The power of true love allows you to do the following things...
It allows you to hide how scared you might be so at you don't upset the other, and still have them intuitively know exactly how you are feeling.
It allows you to find a way to sleep in a hospital bed together even though you know one of you might all to the floor.
It allows you to know when a hug is really the best medicine you need at that moment.
It allows you to see how amazing someone looks even youth they aren't showered, made up, or looking like they did when you first met them.
It allows you to hold a hand for as long as it needs to be held. Never for an instant considering letting go. Because at least one of you (and likely both of you) needs that hand to be held.
It talks about the future even when everything around you indicates that those conversations might not be the best fit right now.
It allows you to see past a bad day and know that good days are just around the corner.
It allows you to smile and joke around at the exact right time to make the other person feel just a little more comfortable.
It knows when you need that look from across the room that let's you know at this moment too will pass very shortly.
So we should be proud of our nephew and his wife. They seem to be pretty close to the path we took to truly being in love with each other. Because as we have learned over the years, the is a big difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
As always I am in love with you.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Sealed with a Kiss
So last night we spent a good amount of time kissing. Very nice kissing. Soft kissing. Romantic kissing.
Because kissing is among my all time favorite things to do with you, it made me wonder. Why do people kiss? When did it start? How do we rank?
Kissing it turns out is a biblical thing. It was a means of confirmation of your faith. The first kisses were simply nothing more than "pecks on the cheek". Over time it grew into something far more intimate. It grew into something used as a means to express love, affection, joy, friendship or passion. Hundreds of years after the peck on the cheek craze, people started pressing their lips together. From there it was well, nothing short of a miracle.
Kissing is more intimate than almost any display of affection. The obvious reason is that it is mouth to mouth and very little is more personal than ones mouth. However, the real reason is that a kiss is the perfect meshing of many of he best senses. The sense of touch, smell and taste. Literally the 3 most sensual of all of the senses. So kissing is essentially designed to be intimate.
So now at the. History lesson is over, I find myself wondering how we rank in terms of kissing.
First of all we have some memorable kisses.
Our first kiss is an event worth talking about at any time. It is almost story book. Neither of us expected it. Neither of us planned it. But neither of us could avoid it. It was a rare moment where two people had a moment that may have changed their lives forever. Just think if we hadn't kissed on that first date. Would there have been a second date? Would we have just assumed we were friends? You should know that you are the only first date, first kiss of my entire life. I never had that kind of courage. I never felt so at ease to make that move as I did with you on at night.
We have the kiss in the streets of Chicago in what remains an almost surreal moment. In my mind it replays like a movie scene. The lights found us just right, the mist in the background, the music playing behind us. Much of that may not have really been there, but in my head it replays that way.
Our kiss when we "got hitched". While it was a quickie it sealed something perfect, so it has to be mentioned.
The next question is "are we good at kissing"? I have watched a Tom of movies and TV. Seen a lot of people kiss over the years. And frankly none come close. Our kisses are soft. Our kisses are passionate. Our kisses have love in them. We don't slobber on each other. We don't force tongues where they shouldn't be shoved. We simply kiss. At the point we kiss we mesh perfectly. At the time we kiss, i never feel better.
So tonight when i walk in the Door, i plan on kissing you. Because a) walking through the door kisses are some of the best and b) I know it will be an awesome event.
After 22+ years we still have so much to offer each other. Kissing is still at or near the top of the list.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
Because kissing is among my all time favorite things to do with you, it made me wonder. Why do people kiss? When did it start? How do we rank?
Kissing it turns out is a biblical thing. It was a means of confirmation of your faith. The first kisses were simply nothing more than "pecks on the cheek". Over time it grew into something far more intimate. It grew into something used as a means to express love, affection, joy, friendship or passion. Hundreds of years after the peck on the cheek craze, people started pressing their lips together. From there it was well, nothing short of a miracle.
Kissing is more intimate than almost any display of affection. The obvious reason is that it is mouth to mouth and very little is more personal than ones mouth. However, the real reason is that a kiss is the perfect meshing of many of he best senses. The sense of touch, smell and taste. Literally the 3 most sensual of all of the senses. So kissing is essentially designed to be intimate.
So now at the. History lesson is over, I find myself wondering how we rank in terms of kissing.
First of all we have some memorable kisses.
Our first kiss is an event worth talking about at any time. It is almost story book. Neither of us expected it. Neither of us planned it. But neither of us could avoid it. It was a rare moment where two people had a moment that may have changed their lives forever. Just think if we hadn't kissed on that first date. Would there have been a second date? Would we have just assumed we were friends? You should know that you are the only first date, first kiss of my entire life. I never had that kind of courage. I never felt so at ease to make that move as I did with you on at night.
We have the kiss in the streets of Chicago in what remains an almost surreal moment. In my mind it replays like a movie scene. The lights found us just right, the mist in the background, the music playing behind us. Much of that may not have really been there, but in my head it replays that way.
Our kiss when we "got hitched". While it was a quickie it sealed something perfect, so it has to be mentioned.
The next question is "are we good at kissing"? I have watched a Tom of movies and TV. Seen a lot of people kiss over the years. And frankly none come close. Our kisses are soft. Our kisses are passionate. Our kisses have love in them. We don't slobber on each other. We don't force tongues where they shouldn't be shoved. We simply kiss. At the point we kiss we mesh perfectly. At the time we kiss, i never feel better.
So tonight when i walk in the Door, i plan on kissing you. Because a) walking through the door kisses are some of the best and b) I know it will be an awesome event.
After 22+ years we still have so much to offer each other. Kissing is still at or near the top of the list.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
And so it begins....Happy Holidays.
Well it is THAT time of year again. The holidays are upon us. I find it kind of strange that you mentioned Thanksgiving to me this morning, because I saw my first real Christmas commercial last night and realized that the holidays have officially begun. Mark the goofy Radio Shack Super Hero commercial as my first of the season.
First up is the awesomeness of the turkey day feast. I really love that day. I am sorry it is such work for you. I'll do whatever I can to assist, but it is a meal you have mastered and I know there is little beyond menial tasks ( like pealing, chopping, etc ) that I can really assist with for the finished product.
This Holiday season will seem kind of odd because it will be the last in our house and it will be the last with a kid who "lives at home". Next year not only will we be somewhere different, both of our girls will have "come home" for the holidays. That just seems weird doesn't it? So i figure this one needs to be special. Really special.
So I made us a list of things we should accomplish this holiday season. I know how you love lists.....
1). We should likely shoot for the tallest most auspicious tree we have ever had this year. Let's see if we can't break the 14 foot mark. We have the ceiling space for it and I know we have ample ornaments.
2). Let's hit every possible holiday celebration we can. We get the Choir singing servers, the Dickens dinner, etc. But we need to find more. Maybe we can add ice skating somewhere or hit Door County for the holidays.
3). Presents galore. This has never been an issue, but I figured I should remind you.
4). We have to know someone who is having a real holiday party. Or maybe we savor this one for next year when we have real friends in Chicago.
5). Cookies. I will be home to help, I really have not been home for the past 4 years during the holidays to help. Lean on mean. I will roll dough, mix this or that, watch ovens, whatever you need.
6). Christmas movies, TV specials, old TV shows, etc. Let's watch them all. Maybe we plan for a 1 movie a night schedule until we have watched them all.
7). Charity. Let's find the right one and make someone else's holiday special. I was really quite shocked to hear how much we have already donated this year, in what was one of our worst financial years ever. Yet we still gave. Let's find a way to make someone have a great Christmas.
8). An all out X-Mas radio bonanza. I checked and 99.3 goes holiday next Saturday.
9). (gulp) A thanksgiving gift exchange.....
I am sure you can think of more things. You always do. This is clearly the time of year when you shine brightest. Like some kind of angel. Maybe that is what you really are. A holiday angel. That might just be what your special skill is in life. Maybe those summer days singing Jack Jones in your basement weren't silly, but rather training for the future.
This year I am all in for you baby. This holiday season seems like it is some kind of critical destiny like holiday for us and our family. I know that with you in charge we are in good hands. Because you truly make this season perfect in every way. You always have. The girls and I love that about you. Let's face it we just love you!
So this is your first Happy Holidays wish from me, there will be many more to come.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
First up is the awesomeness of the turkey day feast. I really love that day. I am sorry it is such work for you. I'll do whatever I can to assist, but it is a meal you have mastered and I know there is little beyond menial tasks ( like pealing, chopping, etc ) that I can really assist with for the finished product.
This Holiday season will seem kind of odd because it will be the last in our house and it will be the last with a kid who "lives at home". Next year not only will we be somewhere different, both of our girls will have "come home" for the holidays. That just seems weird doesn't it? So i figure this one needs to be special. Really special.
So I made us a list of things we should accomplish this holiday season. I know how you love lists.....
1). We should likely shoot for the tallest most auspicious tree we have ever had this year. Let's see if we can't break the 14 foot mark. We have the ceiling space for it and I know we have ample ornaments.
2). Let's hit every possible holiday celebration we can. We get the Choir singing servers, the Dickens dinner, etc. But we need to find more. Maybe we can add ice skating somewhere or hit Door County for the holidays.
3). Presents galore. This has never been an issue, but I figured I should remind you.
4). We have to know someone who is having a real holiday party. Or maybe we savor this one for next year when we have real friends in Chicago.
5). Cookies. I will be home to help, I really have not been home for the past 4 years during the holidays to help. Lean on mean. I will roll dough, mix this or that, watch ovens, whatever you need.
6). Christmas movies, TV specials, old TV shows, etc. Let's watch them all. Maybe we plan for a 1 movie a night schedule until we have watched them all.
7). Charity. Let's find the right one and make someone else's holiday special. I was really quite shocked to hear how much we have already donated this year, in what was one of our worst financial years ever. Yet we still gave. Let's find a way to make someone have a great Christmas.
8). An all out X-Mas radio bonanza. I checked and 99.3 goes holiday next Saturday.
9). (gulp) A thanksgiving gift exchange.....
I am sure you can think of more things. You always do. This is clearly the time of year when you shine brightest. Like some kind of angel. Maybe that is what you really are. A holiday angel. That might just be what your special skill is in life. Maybe those summer days singing Jack Jones in your basement weren't silly, but rather training for the future.
This year I am all in for you baby. This holiday season seems like it is some kind of critical destiny like holiday for us and our family. I know that with you in charge we are in good hands. Because you truly make this season perfect in every way. You always have. The girls and I love that about you. Let's face it we just love you!
So this is your first Happy Holidays wish from me, there will be many more to come.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Crazy Love
I was watching some sappy movie the other day and in the background they were playing the Van Morrison song "Crazy Love". As I think it may be the song most used in romantic movies ever, I took the instant to look up the lyrics. They are really quite romantic. I also noted that the moments that the song seems to get used are always perfect.
So while I won't post the lyrics word for word, I figured that a perfect couple needs to have at least some reference to the song in our history. So I am going to write a short move scene starring us, and have you imagine the song in the background. Here is the link to the Youtube of the song.
Our scene....
We are older. One of our girls is getting married, I won't pick one or the other. She is getting dressed and she is nervous. You are right next to her assuring her that everything is going to be fine. She is worried but won't say why.
I walk in and tell her how beautiful she looks. I remind her that we love her and we even love the guy she is marrying. He is perfect for her and we know he will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. You ask me tom leave so that you can finish. Surprisingly, she asks you to leave and give her a moment as well.
The song starts and suddenly it becomes apparent why she is nervous. The screen begins a series of flashbacks. Not of her and her future husband, but of us. Memory after memory of us flashes by on the screen. All of the hand holding, the hugs and the smiles. All of the glances across the room while we did nothing more than watch television. She reflects on how two people truly in love really should act. She knows that we are the model for such behavior.
Then it becomes clear why she is nervous. No matter how in love she may be, will her future hold the same relationship and love her parents had? A tear drips down her face and the song fades as you reappear in the room.
You ask her why she is crying. She tells you her fears. You tell her what she needs to hear and she smiles. I walk back into the room. The song comes back on and you grab my hand and squeeze it quickly. We taught our baby what it means to really be in love. We know it, she knows it. The song fades again as the scene moves forward to her walking down the aisle.
There you have it. Our use of the most romantic movie song ever. Somehow telling our love story to the whole world.
By the way, the movie ends with everyone in a happily ever after. Just like I love my movies to end.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
So while I won't post the lyrics word for word, I figured that a perfect couple needs to have at least some reference to the song in our history. So I am going to write a short move scene starring us, and have you imagine the song in the background. Here is the link to the Youtube of the song.
Our scene....
We are older. One of our girls is getting married, I won't pick one or the other. She is getting dressed and she is nervous. You are right next to her assuring her that everything is going to be fine. She is worried but won't say why.
I walk in and tell her how beautiful she looks. I remind her that we love her and we even love the guy she is marrying. He is perfect for her and we know he will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. You ask me tom leave so that you can finish. Surprisingly, she asks you to leave and give her a moment as well.
The song starts and suddenly it becomes apparent why she is nervous. The screen begins a series of flashbacks. Not of her and her future husband, but of us. Memory after memory of us flashes by on the screen. All of the hand holding, the hugs and the smiles. All of the glances across the room while we did nothing more than watch television. She reflects on how two people truly in love really should act. She knows that we are the model for such behavior.
Then it becomes clear why she is nervous. No matter how in love she may be, will her future hold the same relationship and love her parents had? A tear drips down her face and the song fades as you reappear in the room.
You ask her why she is crying. She tells you her fears. You tell her what she needs to hear and she smiles. I walk back into the room. The song comes back on and you grab my hand and squeeze it quickly. We taught our baby what it means to really be in love. We know it, she knows it. The song fades again as the scene moves forward to her walking down the aisle.
There you have it. Our use of the most romantic movie song ever. Somehow telling our love story to the whole world.
By the way, the movie ends with everyone in a happily ever after. Just like I love my movies to end.
You're the world to me. I love you more than anything in the world.
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